God Himself created us to be attracted to certain traits in the opposite sex. There’s nothing shallow or non-Christian in following what attracts. But the key is in making sure that we aren’t just following our attraction to the physical. Physical attraction has its place for sure, but be sure that it is not the only way you feel attracted to someone.

According to relationship expert Joe Beam, there are three main areas of attraction. He uses the acronym P.I.E. to show the three areas of attraction. They are: Physical, Intellectual and Emotional attraction.

So keep that in mind as you’re around other singles. There are plenty of physically attractive people, but the key is in finding someone that is also intellectually and emotionally attractive to you. Also keep these three areas in mind as you work to make yourself attractive to the opposite sex. Spend plenty of time exercising, eating healthy and standing in front of the mirror but also work on making yourself intellectually attractive by keeping up with current events, reading books and learning new things so that you can have intelligent and interesting things to talk about.

Emotional attraction can be a bit more mysterious. This is the attraction category sometimes assigned to the spiritual side of things. Emotional attraction is when you feel you have a special connection with another person that no one else can match. They make you feel alive, safe, confident, loved, special and when you are with them you usually feel that you are sharing a wavelength with them.

So remember the three areas of attraction not only when you are determining how you feel about someone, but also when you are wanting someone to feel attracted to you. There’s nothing wrong with bringing out the best in yourself. In fact, we should strive to do that every day.